People have asked how do you say something to someone who is grieving? It is such a difficult subject. People are very nervous about it - it puts us in touch with our own fear of losing someone we love and our own death. And people worry about making the situation worse. People often say ‘I didn’t say something because I could see it was very hard and I didn’t want to make it worse.’ In fact, it is helpful to say something and to acknowledge what has happened. You can’t make it worse: the worst has happened.