
Resources
BOOK: The Long Way Down - Poems of Grief and Hope by Averil Stedeford
This is a collection of poems written by Averil, a psychiatrist who worked in a hospice. Soon after she left the hospice, her husband was found to have inoperable cancer. The poems in the book represent a moving account of her experience with him and her journey through bereavement. It has helped many people as they go through the grieving process.
Physical Manifestation of Grief - Understanding How Grief Affects the Brain
This article explores the physical manifestation of grief. Grief not only impacts our emotions but also brings significant changes to the brain, affecting memory, stress levels, and overall well-being.
Dying for Beginners - The Dying Process
This video explains the dying process very gently so that we understand it better and can have conversations with friends and family about it.
Love Your Pet - Grief Support
In this article we acknowledge the value of pets in supporting grief and the pain we can also experience when they die.
Looking After Yourself - When You’re Mourning
After the funeral, everyone else's lives seem to go back to normal, and you may be left wondering how you're going to cope. Read on for advice on taking care of yourself, crucial for your future wellbeing and that of others, when you’re still mourning.
Bereavement Support - in Older Age
Although losing a loved one is perhaps more common in later life, this doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. If someone you know has been bereaved, there are some simple things you can do to provide bereavement support.
How to Cope with Grief - The Benefits of Grief Gardening
When you lose someone, the grief will never go away completely — so you may want to know how to cope with grief. Some people find that gardening as they grieve, known as grief gardening, can gently relieve some of the emotional and physical symptoms after the loss of a loved one.
Losing a Loved One - Coping When Bereaved
AtaLoss Subject Matter Expert, Sabine Horner is a nutritionist. Here she writes about how deep breathing can help us deal with the storms of emotion when we're bereaved.
Top Tips to Keep Well Hydrated - The Physical Effects of Grief
One of the most common physical effects of grief is reduced appetite and a lack of interest in drinking enough fluids. Meanwhile we can often cry a lot which depletes our hydration levels further. Sabine explains why keeping hydrated in grief is important and how that can be achieved.
Bereavement Support - Young People Training
Listening People bereavement support training and resources provide tools for teachers, youth workers, counsellors and anyone who works with young people to safely and confidently enable them to engage around the difficult topic of loss.
Symptoms - The Physical Effects of Grief
Are you puzzled by the physical effects of grief? Sabine explains the hidden causes of common grief symptoms.
Funerals: Find an Independent - Funeral Director near You
Understand how The National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors (known as SAIF) can help.
Funerals: Everything a - Young Person Needs to Know
A useful film and book to help any young person understand funerals (burial and cremation) and decide whether to attend and what role they can play in saying goodbye to a loved one.
Surviving Christmas - When You Are Bereaved
The video from Sabine Horner offers tips for surviving Christmas when you are bereaved.
Bereavement Counselling - What You Need to Know
We provide some information here about what bereavement counselling is, what to expect and how to find a good counsellor that suits your needs. The information is helpfully provided by the Association of Christian Counsellors.
Anticipatory Grief & the Final Farewell - The Power of Discussing Death
Anticipatory loss is the grief that is felt in anticipation of someone's death and we can better prepare for loss, change the negative narrative, and remove the taboo by talking about death.
Christmas… a Difficult Time for - Those Who Are Grieving
Christmas is a difficult time for those grieving. This is the season of traditions and family gatherings and a by-product is that it highlights the ‘missing-person-shaped’ hole in our lives.
Annually Remembering - In Memoriam
Remember loved ones In Memoriam. We encourage people who have been bereaved to consider activities on offer at this time of remembering. We also offer some advice to help bereaved people with their grief.
Offering Bereavement Support - to Grieving University Students
Supporting young adults as they navigate being away from home at University and providing them with bereavement support can be challenging. Here our Founder, Yvonne Tulloch provides quick tips on how to do so.
Bereavement Support - Befriending
Loneliness is often something we experience following the death of someone important to us and can happen at any age. This article provides links to services that can help by offering bereavement support.
Preventing Drastic - Weight Loss in Grief
Sabine Horner explains why eating can become a major issue after losing a loved one and experiencing grief. In the early days, for biological reasons most people who are grieving simply do not feel hungry.
Losing a Child - and Grieving
Grieving the death of a child, of any age, brings heartbreak and devastation. This article was written by Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds who set up the Good Grief Project following the death of their son, Josh.
Feeling the Physical Effects of Grief? - Nourish Your Body
Nutritionist Sabine Horner recommends ways to nourish your body when you are grieving.
Rosemary for Remembrance - Mourning Cake
A recipe for how to bake a Rosemary for Remembrance Cake from Nigella Lawson’s book Feast. It’s perfect to bake for yourself or someone else who is in mourning.
Bereaved? Why We Can’t Stomach Food - Physical Signs of Grief
Lost your appetite? Of the many physical signs of grief, a decreased appetite and other food related issues are perhaps the most common. Learn what you can do about it.
Michael Rosen's Sad Book by Michael Rosen
BOOK: A beautifully illustrated read for adults and children about love and loss which explains why it's ok to be sad sometimes.
Death, Grief and Hope for Young People
BOOKLET: Downloadable Christian resource which looks to tell the truth about what happens when someone dies and how to understand our feelings.
A death in the lives of
FILM: 20 minute film shows a group of young people aged 13-16, from a range of backgrounds talking about the kind of support they needed to help them cope with bereavement.
Leaving a Legacy and - Reducing Your Tax Liability
Leaving a legacy including a part or your entire estate to a charity can reduce, and in some situations, eliminate your Inheritance Tax liability.
How to - Hold Your Own Memorial
If you have been bereaved and you can’t attend a funeral or have chosen not to do so you may want to hold your own memorial service for the person you have lost.
Learning Disabilities - and Bereavement Support
This briefing is produced by Brake, the road safety charity. It aims to raise awareness of how people with learning disabilities experience grief, and provides advice on how to offer them bereavement support.
Young People and - Traumatic Grief and Bereavement
In traumatic grief and bereavement, children and young people experience very strong emotions because of the meaning they make of the death.
The Grief Goes On - A Gift for a Bereaved Friend
Dr Marianne Trent, a Clinical Psychologist and Author of 'The Grief Collective', talks about mourning and letting other people know you are bereaved. She also explains the AtaLoss Remembering Someone badge which we think makes a good gift for a bereaved friend.
How to Cope with a - Tragedy & Complicated Grief
Every death brings its own trauma to survivors. However, when someone is suddenly killed in an accident or murdered, the stress levels rise considerably for those left behind and this can cause what is known as complicated grief.
Traumatic Grief & - Bereavement Support
Trauma refers to the way that some distressing events are so extreme or shocking that they overwhelm a person’s ability to cope, resulting in lasting negative impact. This article contains information to help you understand and respond to people with traumatic grief.
What Is Effective - Bereavement Support?
This article explores effective bereavement support, how we can learn to offer it, and what it looks like.
Magnesium: Managing Symptoms - When Struggling with Grief
When we are struggling with grief one often-overlooked factor in managing the symptoms we experience, is ensuring we are getting enough magnesium. Magnesium is an essential mineral that plays a pivotal role in over 300 biological processes within the human body.
Autistic People and - Bereavement
There is not a great deal of research on how autistic people deal with bereavement. However there is useful advice available that can help us support anyone with autism, whatever their age.
Writing a Will or Handling One When Bereaved
You might have to deal with the Will, money and property of the person who's died if you're a close friend or relative, or the executor of the Will. If you are anticipating your death you may be considering writing a will. We’ll talk about both aspects of Wills.
Funerals - How to Plan One
Our guide on how to plan a funeral. A funeral is an opportunity to create a special tribute to your loved one and whilst painful, can also be memorable and a positive experience.
Protecting Against Identity Fraud - What to do When Someone Dies
Wondering what to do when someone dies and has their identity stolen? This advice might help you to prevent it.
Dealing with Belongings - What to do When Someone Dies
This article outlines what to do when someone dies and you need to deal with their belongings, it also covers what the legal rules may be.
Government Advice - What to do When Someone Dies
Do you need to know what to do when someone dies? There’s a lot of Government advice to help and support you during this difficult time. This article explains more.
Funeral Etiquette - in Different Faiths
If you are attending the funeral of someone of a different faith you can get advice here on, for example, what to expect, how to pay your respects, how to send condolences and what to wear to the funeral.
Five Tips for Supporting - a Grieving Young Person
Here are five tips for supporting young people who are bereaved.
Cancelling Mail
This is our guide to cancelling mail. Receiving post for the person who has died can be very difficult. Depending on the type of mail, there are a variety of practical measures you can take to deal with the problem.
How to Easily Cancel Official Documents - What to do When Someone Dies
Do you need to cancel official documents? We’ll tell you what to do when someone dies. Using the Government's ‘Tell Us Once’ service will ensure all government departments are informed. This includes passports, driving licenses, pensions, benefits, national insurance, tax and blue badges.
Benefits - and Bereavement
If you have been affected by bereavement there may be Government benefits you are now eligible for, especially if you are a partner or child of the deceased. Depending on which of your loved ones has died your tax allowances, National Insurance and benefits may change.
Tough Stuff Journal: Someone Has Died
A resource to help young people express and share their grief and feelings of loss when someone has died - endorsed by professionals in the field.
Training by Listening People
Training for youth leaders, teachers and professionals supporting young people.
Getting Your Affairs in Order Before You Die
'Your Last Gift' is a practical step-by-step guide to getting your paperwork together, to help your loved ones deal easily with the 'sadmin' after your death. It has received excellent reviews. READ MORE HERE
My Dad and Me by Daxa Manhar Patel
BOOK & BLOG: A journey of love...loss...and life. Daxa bravely shares the story of her love and grief for her inspirational father.
Loss and Hope
WEBSITE: Resources to equip churches of all denominations across the UK to help those grieving.
What to do when someone dies: National Bereavement Service
BOOKLET: A very helpful little guide to everything you need to do following a bereavement and a handy checklist on the back.
Bereavement Services Association
National network for all those who work in providing bereavement support services
Life. Death. Whatever.
WEBSITE: A new approach to death and dying, showing how exploring our mortality can change our lives
Open to Hope
WEBSITE: an online website where people can share inspirational stories of loss and love. We encourage our visitors to read, listen and share their stories of hope and compassion.
The Swan Song Project
LEGACY & REFLECTION: The Swan Song Project gives people facing end of life and those surrounding them the opportunity to write and record their own original song.
Activities for bereaved young people
BOOK: helping to develop resilience and coping skills.
Funerals: Organisations that can help
WEBSITES: Organisations - faith-based and secular -that can help and advise about loved ones' funerals and help you find a celebrant
A Birthday Present for Daniel by Juliet Rothman
BOOK: Ellen has lost her brother, and she shares with readers just how his death has changed the way her family interacts and the way she thinks about herself and others.
Dear Grandma Bunny by Dick Bruna
BOOK: this book tells the story of whathappened and how Miffy felt and coped when Grandma died
When Uncle Bob Died by Althea
BOOK: A young boy talks about death and about Uncle Bob who died from an illness.
I Miss You: A First Look at Death By Pat Thomas
BOOK: This reassuring picture book explores the difficult issue of death for young children.
What Does Dead Mean? by Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas
BOOK: A Book for Young Children to Help Explain Death and Dying
Saying Goodbye: Malin Andersson podcast
PODCAST Listen to former Love Island star Malin Andersson talking about the loss of her mother and her baby daughter and why it is so hard to talk about death.August 2020
I’ll Write Your Name on Every Beach
BOOK: A Mother’s Quest for Comfort, Courage and Clarity After Suicide Loss
The Grief Garden Path by Julie New
BOOK: The Grief Garden Path is easy to read, with plenty of practical advice, which you can dip into whenever you have time.
When Dinosaurs Die by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
BOOK: by Laurene Krasny Brown – A guide to understanding death (Dino Life Guides for Families).
Funeral funding, costs and legalities – a professional’s guide - online training
Training by Down To Earth and the National Bereavement Service
Death, Grief and Hope - Version for men and women in prison
BOOKLET: Downloadable Christian resource which looks to tell the truth about what happens when someone dies and how to understand our feelings.
Death, grief and hope for adults.
BOOKLET: Downloadable Christian resource which looks to tell the truth about what happens when someone dies and how to understand our feelings.
Katy Braine : Goodness Gracious Grief
WEBSITE: Looking at how we can help each other grieve.
Where are you Lydie? by Emma Poore
BOOK: A true and uplifting story for young children about love, loss and hope.
Rosedale Bereavement Training
Professional bereavement training courses provided by the training arm of Rosedale Funeral Directors
The Invisible String by Patricia Karst
BOOK: A wonderful storybook for children experiencing any kind of separation for any reason (including death) anxiety.
If There’s Anything I Can Do: How to Help Someone Who Has Been Bereaved by Caroline Voaden
BOOK: Caroline Voaden explains how it feels to be bereaved and what helped her in the weeks, months and years following her bereavement.
How It Feels When a Parent Dies by Jill Krementz
BOOK: The short writings hold a range of reactions to the death of a parent. The authors come from different backgrounds, situations and circumstances, yet they hold one thing in common: losing a parent.
Elizabeth Richter, Losing someone you love: When a brother or sister dies
BOOK: For young and older teenagers
Apart of Me
APP: For young people who have lost a parent or other close relative, also those who have someone important in their life with a terminal illness.
..Tough Stuff Journal: Someone has died
A resource to help young people express and share their grief and feelings of loss when someone has died - endorsed by professionals in the field.
Funerals: A Guide by James Bentley, Andrew Best & Jackie Hunt
BOOK: An anthology of prayers, readings, hymns and music, drawn from a wide range of faiths and traditions
Love, Interrupted by Simon Thomas
BOOK: Love, Interrupted is a moving story of love, loss, faith, and family.
On Grief and Grieving by David Kessler and Elisabeth Kubler Ross
BOOK: Finding the Meaning of Grief
Children and Grief by William Worden
BOOK: Drawing upon extensive interviews and assessments of school-age children who have lost a parent to death, this book offers a richly textured portrait of the mourning process in children.
Beyond Grief by Carol Staudacher
BOOK: A Guide for Recovering from the death of a loved one.
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy by Sandberg & Grant
BOOK: After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again.
C Parkes Murray, Love and Loss: The Roots of Grief and It’s Complication
BOOK: By understanding the nature and pattern of loving can we begin to understand the problems of grieving.
Training by Listening People
Training for youth leaders, teachers and professionals supporting young people.
Continuing Bonds by Klass, Silverman & Nickman
BOOK: Many modern theories hold that the function of grief and mourning is to cut bonds with the deceased, freeing the survivor to develop new relationships.
Swift to Hear by Michael Jacobs
BOOK: Michael Jacobs addresses these listening and responding skills, describing the process of communication.
Supporting yourself and others: Coping with death and grief during the Covid-19 pandemic
WEBSITE & LEAFLET A useful leaflet produced by the British Psychological Society
Childhood Bereavement Network
WEBSITE A hub for those working with bereaved children and young people across the UK
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
WEBSITE: Counselling and bereavement advocacy organisation
Talking about death, Facing death personally & Losing a Loved One
WEBSITE: Practical and spiritual supportive articles on the 'Art of Dying Well' website
Lament for a Son by Nicholas Wolterstorff
BOOK: The author of this book, lost his 25-year-old son Eric in a mountain climbing accident, has started the long, unwanted journey to come to terms with his grief.
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
BOOK: A portrait of a marriage and a life – in good times and bad – that will speak to anyone who has ever loved a husband or wife or child. A stunning book of electric honesty and passion.
I’m Grieving as Fast as I Can (On Being Widowed) by Linda Feinberg
BOOK: A book about how Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal