"Talking about death", "Facing death personally" & "Losing a Loved One" WEBSITE: Practical and spiritual supportive articles on the 'Art of Dying Well' website Expand "Talking about death", "Facing death personally" & "Losing a Loved One" Practical and spiritual supportive articles. Link to website What do we mean when we talk about 'dying well'? This is one of life's greatest questions. Here we'll explore some of the biggest questions and ideas, including what the Church says about death.
* Lets Talk About Loss WEBSITE: A safe space for 18-35 year olds to meet and discover resources to help them with their loss through bereavement. Expand Lets Talk About Loss A safe space to talk about loss with other people who will understand. Various groups around the country. Peer support, befriending and social meet ups to help bereaved 18-35 year olds. Visit Website
*Tough Stuff Journal: Parental Separation A resource to help young people express and share their emotions and feelings of loss when parents separate Expand The first in our Tough Stuff Journal series, Pete English has produced a booklet for young people who are struggling with parental break up. For many young people this involves feelings of traumatic loss accompanied by emotions which are hard to handle. The journal is designed to be used by a young person accompanied by a trusted adult - a parent or relative, youth worker, social worker or school mentor. It is deliberately ‘free form’ and non- prescriptive in the way in which it can be completed, but has some guidelines at the back. It is useful for parents, youth workers, teachers or anyone working with young people. Purchase Price £5 + postage Available from [email protected] 'Tough Stuff Journal: Someone has died' will be published shortly. This is specifically for young people who have been bereaved.
*Tough Stuff Journal: Someone has died A resource to help young people express and share their grief and feelings of loss when someone has died Expand Newly published is the new booklet in the Tough Stuff Journal family - Someone has Died. This is aimed at supporting young people wrestling with the loss of someone close. The journal is designed to be used by a young person accompanied by a trusted adult - a parent or relative, youth worker, social worker or school mentor. The journal is designed deliberately in 'free form', can be written in and asks open questions to encourage the young person to reflect on and record their feelings about the loss. Purchase Price £5 + postage Available to order by emailing [email protected] The Tough Stuff journals have come into existence as a result of Pete’s work with young people over many years. Many of the ideas are credited to young people who he has worked alongside. Pete has worked with talented designers and illustrators to come up with the Tough Stuff journal - great resource which children and young people will want to pick up and work through with their teacher, a parent or counsellor.
*Training by ListeningPeople Training for youth leaders, teachers and professionals supporting young people. Expand ListeningPeople training and resources provide tools for teachers, youth workers, counsellors and anyone who works with young people to safely and confidently enable them to engage around the difficult topic of loss. Our training is led by Pete English. With over 25 years experience in working with young people and counselling in schools, Pete really does know what is like to support young people through difficult times. He is currently providing training on-line. On any of his workshops you will come away with tools to go away and use straight away, a heightened sense of the impact of hearing about loss on self and a whole host of new ideas! You can download our training leaflet from the box below. To find out when the next online workshops will be happening email [email protected] Endorsements by professionals who have experienced ListeningPeople training: "What Pete doesn't know about young people and loss isn't worth knowing." Rachel Gardner, Youthscape "The training was professional, insightful and perfectly pitched for our setting." Joe Lowther, Kick London “Pete delivered the training in a way that enabled everyone in the room from very different professional and personal backgrounds to participate in it fully. He was calm and professional and gained people’s trust speedily through his knowledge and manner. He presented the material clearly and ensured that we understood it. There was a good balance of practical exercises and slides/written material.I would recommend Pete as a trainer/facilitator." Antonia Rowland, Volunteer at Number 72, Sudbury - Solicitor (SRA number 29891)"The whole area of loss and bereavement raises many sensitive issues and Pete quickly created a supportive and respectful learning environment in which to share and participate. He also brings with him a wealth of experience in small groups, mentoring and counselling which enrich the training. He placed the young person’s needs at the centre of the discussions, a great listener and generous in sharing resources, which promotes good practice and development for facilitators." Ant Cartwight, Senior Youthwork Coordinator Download printed details about ListeningPeople training ListeningPeople_DL_AtaLoss_web.pdf
10 Ways to help you through the seasons (Autumn) WEBSITE: Bereavement UK'S practical guide to helping the bereaved deal with the seasons and anniversaries Expand Changing of any season can bring with it new anniversaries of significant moments. Here are some ways that may help you through autumn. Visit site
A death in the lives of FILM: 20 minute film shows a group of young people aged 13-16, from a range of backgrounds talking about the kind of support they needed to help them cope with bereavement. Expand Made with the help of the St Christopher's Candle Project, shows a group of young people aged 13-16, from a range of backgrounds talking about the kind of support they needed to help them cope with bereavement. They discuss the role of family, friends, schools and other service providers such as the police, doctors and nurses. BUY HERE
A Valley Journal Resources through blogs, articles and books on grief and how to handle it. WEBSITE: Living with loss grief resources. A useful website curated by Abi May. Expand A Valley Journal Resources through blogs, articles and books on grief and how to handle it. Visit the website
ABSCo WEBSITE Association of Bereavement Services Coordinators in Hospices and Palliative Care Expand ABSCo was formed to meet the need for a network for support and information for people who coordinate and manage bereavement support services within hospices and palliative care settings, for both adults and children. As one of the founding members of the National Bereavement Alliance, ABSCo works at all levels to raise public awareness of bereavement issues, and to provide a network of support to those working in the bereavement field in Hospice and Palliative care settings nationwide. WEBSITE For general enquires, please contact ABSCo's administrator, Lesley: [email protected]
Action on Pre-eclampsia WEBSITE: Charity campaigning for support and providing information for those affected by Pre-eclampsia. Expand A national charity which campaigns and lobbies for funds, research and education to support those affected by Pre-eclampsia. CONTACT WEBSITE [email protected] 01386 761848
Alan D. Wolfelt, Healing your Grieving Heart – For Teens BOOK: A book of simple tips for understanding and expressing your grief for teens Expand Buy on Amazon With sensitivity and insight, this series offers suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors learn to express their grief and mourn naturally. Acknowledging that death is a painful, ongoing part of life, they explain how people need to slow down, turn inward, embrace their feelings of loss, and seek and accept support when a loved one dies. Each book, geared for mourning adults, teens, or children, provides ideas and action-oriented tips that teach the basic principles of grief and healing. These ideas and activities are aimed at reducing the confusion, anxiety, and huge personal void so that the living can begin their lives again. Included in the books for teens and kids are age-appropriate activities that teach younger people that their thoughts are not only normal but necessary.
Albert Y. Hsu, Grieving a Suicide: A Loved One's Search for Comfort, Answers, and Hope BOOK: Hsu's book draws on the Christian faith to assist suicide survivors to the God who offers comfort in our grief. Expand Hsu draws on the Christian faith to assist suicide survivors to the God who offers comfort in our grief. Buy on Amazon "Albert," the neighbor said, "your mom needs you to come home." That's how it began for Albert Hsu when his father died. Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide experiences tremendous shock and trauma. What follows is a confusing mix of emotions--anger, guilt, grief, and despair. Suicide raises heartrending questions: Why did this happen? Why didn't we see it coming? Could we have done anything to prevent it? How can we go on? Many also wonder if those who choose suicide are doomed to an eternity separated from God and their loved ones. Some may even start asking whether life is worth living at all. After his father's death, Hsu wrestled with the intense emotional and theological questions surrounding suicide. While acknowledging that there are no easy answers, he draws on the resources of the Christian faith to point suicide survivors to the God who offers comfort in our grief and hope for the future. For those who have lost a loved one to suicide and for their counsellors and pastors, this book is an essential companion for the journey toward healing. This revised edition incorporates updated statistics and now includes a discussion guide for suicide survivor groups.
Alison Wertheimer, A Special Scar: The Experiences of People Bereaved by Suicide BOOK: A 'Special Scar' looks in detail at the stigma surrounding suicide and offers practical help for survivors, relatives and friends of people who have taken their own life. Expand Buy on Amazon Every 85 minutes someone in the UK takes their own life, but what happens to those left behind? In a society where suicide is often viewed with fear or disapproval, it can be difficult for those personally affected by a suicide death to come to terms with their loss and seek help and support. A Special Scar looks in detail at the stigma surrounding suicide and offers practical help for survivors, relatives and friends of people who have taken their own life. Fifty bereaved people tell their own stories, showing us that, by not hiding the truth from themselves and others, they have been able to learn to live with the suicide, offering hope to others facing this traumatic loss. This new, revised edition includes new material on: * counselling survivors of suicide* group work with survivors. The new material incorporates the latest research findings which have added significantly to our understanding of the impact of suicide, an area which the UK Government has targeted for action in the mental health arena. This new edition will continue to be an invaluable resource for survivors of suicide as well as for all those who are in contact with them, including police and coroner's officers, bereavement services, self-help organisations for survivors, mental health professionals, social workers, GPs, counsellors and therapists.Alison Wertheimer has been working as a freelance writer and researcher since 1987, after working in the voluntary sector for twenty years. She has a private counselling practice, is a supervisor with a bereavement counselling service and runs workshops on the impact of suicide bereavement.
Anita Diamant, Saying Kiddish: How to comfort the dying, bury the dead and mourn as a Jew BOOK: A book that helps move one through grief according to Judaism’s beliefs and customs in layman’s terms. Expand This is a fairly detailed book with regards to the path of mourning from the point of death to Yahrseits (remembrance on the anniversary of the death) with regards to Jewish tradition. Though I have been getting in touch with my Judaism over the past year and attending shul regularly, when my grandmother suddenly passed away I found myself asking many questions. Going to shabbat services is great for embracing Judaism for everyday life, but there are many things about the Jewish tradition associated with death, especially of a family member, that you just don't get exposed to normally. This book was a wonderful guidance in the days following my grandmother's death and for weeks afterwards, as I embraced what my culture traditionally did and remembering that I am just one person; while many people have passed away before, and many still will, death and healing are very raw and critical part of life and not something to hide from. Buy on Amazon
Anna Blundy, Every Time We Say Goodbye BOOK: Anna Blundy's book is an honest account of her personal experience of losing her father. Expand (Arrow Books Ltd, 1999) - death of an absent father Anna Blundy's honest account of her personal experience of losing her father. Buy on Amazon On 17th November 1989 Anna Blundy received a phone call to say that her father, David Blundy, a foreign correspondent, had been shot reporting the war in El Salvador. In a way it was the phone call she had been expecting all her life. Every time they said goodbye, she knew he might not return. Eight years later, in April 1997, Anna went to El Salvador to try to discover the truth about his death, and finally, after a decade of mourning, to come to terms with her loss. During her trip Anna, now a journalist herself, revisits her childhood and the world she and her father inhabited. Memories of the succession of lonely hotel bedrooms in exotic locations, the painful goodbyes, and the midnight phone calls sometimes punctuated by the sound of gunfire. Every time she turned on the TV she imagined news of his death in some dusty foreign war. This is also an honest insight into the relationship between father and daughter - her fear of not fulfilling his expectations; of being supplanted by a new girlfriend or by the birth of a younger sister; of how her world collapsed the day when he died. This is a sharp but beautifully written account interweaving humour and bittersweet recollection.
Apart of Me APP: For young people who have lost a parent or other close relative, also those who have someone important in their life with a terminal illness. Expand Apart of Me provides young people with a safe space to grieve, where they can hear from others who know how it feels and find strength and wisdom. A unique experience that talks their language, whenever they need, in a format they understand, designed specifically for them. Apart of Me is now available on the iOS App Store and on Google Play
Arranging a funeral in church WEBSITE: Church of England advice and resources for a church funeral Expand When someone dies, there's so much to think about and so much to organise. We understand how difficult this can be. The Church of England website can help you say your final goodbye in a way that really helps. Explore the links on the website to see how the church can help you. WEBSITE
AtaLoss.org: Being a bereaved parent supporting a bereaved child WEB PAGES ON THIS WEBSITE: Information on the AtaLoss.org website about being a bereaved parent Expand Supporting a bereaved child when you are also bereaved Our website has information about how others are coping with being a bereaved parent. Have a look at the resources available in this section - there are several- and also our own web pages under the 'recently bereaved' section. Click here to go straight there.
AtaLoss.org: Looking after yourself WEB PAGES ON THIS WEBSITE: Information on AtaLoss.org about the importance of looking after yourself in bereavement. Expand Looking after yourself when you have been bereaved This is difficult but essential to do, even if you are supporting bereaved children. Have a look at our information pages for some pointers on this and why it is important. Click here to go straight to these pages on our website.
AtaLoss.org: Preventing Posthumous Identity Fraud WEB PAGES ON THIS WEBSITE: Information from the AtaLoss.org website about protecting yourself and your family from fraud in the event of your own death or after the death of a loved one. Expand Preventing Posthumous Identity Fraud This is a potential problem that can cause you and your family no end of trouble after the death of your loved one. The information pages on this website in the recently bereaved section take you through some simple steps to minimise the risk. Click here to go straight to the relevant page.
BBC News Article, If you die early, how will your children remember you? ARTICLE: A useful article about how bereavement affected Gaby Eirew and how she used 'legacy' to look forward. Expand If you die early, how will your children remember you? BBC News Article. Read the article
Benjamin Brooks Dutton: It's not raining, Daddy. It's Happy. BOOK: A book about surviving grief. A father and son start again after the tragic loss of a wife and mother. Expand Buy on Amazon The moving and inspiring account of heartbreak and courage, and the life-affirming relationship between a father and son. Ben Brooks-Dutton's wife - the great love of his life - was knocked down and killed by a car. His book talks about rebuilding his life and that of his young son.
Bereavement Advice Centre Advice, information and support following bereavement Expand Bereavement Advice Centre supports and advises people on what they need to do after a death. Lots of information here to help recently bereaved people. If you need more information than is provided on their web pages, try calling the Bereavement Advice Centre on 0800 634 9494: CONTACT WEBSITE Call freephone 0800 634 9494Monday to Friday, 9am - 5pm
Beyond Words BOOKS, E BOOKS: Resources for people who find it easier to understand pictures than words Expand Books, e-books and downloadable resources for people who find it easier to understand pictures than words, including people with learning difficulties. Topics like 'Getting on with cancer', 'When Mum died' and 'When Dad died'. Beating the virus : A short wordless story, that will help people to understand what to do if you have Coronavirus and how to keep yourself and those who you care about safe. The story also shows how to safely help others who may be self-isolating. Available as a free download. https://booksbeyondwords.co.uk/downloads-shop/beating-the-virus Tel: 020 7492 2559 WEBSITE